Recently I have had to realize that shame is God’s way of humbling our hearts.  We bring shame upon ourselves.   It becomes apparent that in life it becomes hurt that can keep us from our goals of being closer to God.

As I grow in my life toward the woman God wants me to be, I have realized that my mistakes become shame.  I read a note card that gave good life advice.  it said do not go to bed angry, show up and stay late and think before you speak!  Really good advise.  We sometimes need to remind ourselves that sometimes what we start is not going to turn out just like we expected.  However it might turn out better!

I have set some huge goals this year for my life.  I look to the small victories that God will send me as I work toward these goals.  However my goals mean nothing if they do not grow me toward God.  Recently I have been humbled by new people who God has placed in my life.  He sets our feet toward new directions!  He asures me that I will be doing his work.  It might be a co-worker,  A family member, or a stranger that is placed in my life for his glory.  I have learned to be thankful for all.

Being humble is when you realize what you have to say is not necessary!  You become quiet and more willing to let others speak.  Being humbled by what happens to me instead of torn down by circumstances.  Learning to let go of strife and being ok with a new road.  These are the things of growth!



Have you ever tried to help another and they just don’t see it! They act like they are on the same page only to not care about what you are trying to do! I have been working with a young man who is truly not helping himself. As an employer I want to retain employees by getting them on board with our goals.

Well just like that employee God gives us children as well. I can recall several conversations with my children about what they were doing or proposing that I did not agree with. So I would try to influence their thinking by asking them to consider my opinions. However that was never going to work!   Because it would mean they would have to change their opinion. It is all about trying that becomes more of a compromise that will help both of us. A give and take!

Both scenarios are about two young people.  My insight is from life!   They have not lived to see failings.  They both are still happy to rely on their families to get their needs met.  The young man is not willing to change his conduct that will eventually lose him his employment.  The child who thinks she is correct will find out she is not once she is on her own struggling with the reality of her life.

We can only try to get others to see the reasons why we still try!  I believe that we all need someone in our corner.  Who will be strong enough to tell us that we are wrong!  Strong enough to fire us when it is necessary.  Strong enough to be there from a distance asking them to consider a different approach.

Look at your life relationships and see if you see who has been the brave ones in your life!  Who said “No you are wrong!”  the Bible teaches that God cares for us.  He will hold us accountable.  “In an outburst of anger I turned my back on you but only for a moment.  It’s with lasting love that I am tenderly caring for you.”  Isaiah 54:8

As the above scripture reminds,  we must know that he God has an opinion of our choices and he will be stead fast in his love to bring us back from our own errors.

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An afternoon in the country at the local winery sipping and painting!  What a great time.  My daughters and one of our dear friends went with us.  We had done this last year and it was so much fun!  What a glorious day to relax and to spend quality time with one another.  It was just very special to spend this time together.  we created very unique pieces of art!  I tend to be extreme with color.

It is amazing how each of us were given the same instruction and yet the way our art turned out was very different!  All unique like each of the people who was in the class.

It reminds me of how God works on us and thru us for his good.  Just as the paintings turned out similar they were individual pieces of art who reflected the person who created it.  Our identity was only for us as individual.   PSALM 119-73 says “With your very own hands you formed me; now breath your wisdom over so I can understand.

Just as we created our art today,  I was well aware that we started with a blank canvas and really did not have a full understanding how it would turn out.  It took time to see the picture come together.  I think we all start out as a white canvas and our lives and personal growth begin to start coming together with color!

I am still working to understand what God has in store for my life.  I know one thing for sure!   In God I Trust!

In him all my faith is full.  In him I am one!  He fills in the colors of my life with his knowledge.  He fills me with hope and gives me direction when I am not sure.  He opens me to new opportunity because he gives me with assurance that he is with me.  I am his!  God’s word assures us that “his presence will be with us and he will give us rest.”   Exodus 33:14

It was so much fun to have the art come together.  To see each of us in our group celebrate the joy of their art.  originals one of kinds!  Just as God has made each of us.

Wishing you a day to appreciation


What is like to be more than you?  Well it can mean so many different things.  As I see it, today I am in my 50’s and the things I have learned to get here have given me life lessons  no class room would have given me.

In my twenties I was self consumed and all about me!  Hard to admit. I was focused on making a career mark.  I pushed myself to be more for others to be proud of me.  All though the person I wanted to be proud of me past away when I was twenty.  This decade taught me a lot I did not really know. It was a time of loss,  personal destruction and an attitude that was not God centered.  It was all about ME-

In my thirties it was about becoming a mother and still trying to find more to hold onto.  Self doubts, defeat, loss and rejection then found me.   I had to learn to stop caring about things outside my circle of life.  I had my family to attend too and still I had to earn a living.  No staying at home to nuture.  Nuturing was done in route to day care, to work,  dinner time and bedtime.  It felt as if I was the invisable women. I got thru this to meet the next chapter!

My forty’s I was filled with false promises of success, health, career, and death.  All of the sudden it was real.  The people that have been part of your journey are sick and passing.  I dealt with my own mortality when I had a heart attack at 45 years of age.  It has been 8 years since that event and I still do not have the stamina like I did then.  I found myself trying to protect my loved ones from my own death.  I watched my sister say good bye to her best friend to death.  I said good bye to my father in law and my mother all before my fifties. I would have career adventures that left my loved ones waiting for me to come back home.  My forties were a time of fear of the future.

Now in my fifties I have dealt with death, career challenges, health and the second generation.  Our tree of life is growing with our grandson being born.   In my fifties I thought would be a time of great freedom.  Money in the bank,  time to work on bucket lists and quiet days spending time doing things I wanted to do.  Thus far It is not exactly the way I saw it.  I miss my mother in law who we lost in February of 2016.  I wish she could see our little grandson.  Ann would have loved him.  She had such a love for babies.

We must take the time we have and value it.  Some people do not get to be in there fifties. Be humble as Jesus told his deciples.  My faith is stronger than ever.  I am thankful even when I have no idea how God will provide an answer, he does!  He does not fail to love me even though I am not young and youthful.  He loves me and is here for me.

I encourage you to remember each day is a gift.  Treasure this day the Lord had given and remember to be thankful for all you have been given.  Being more than you,  means God has plans to prosper you & grow your life.1C5A706B-42A5-4DC3-9D7C-371E66A8D314