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LOVE YOUR NEIGBOR

Love your neigbor!  So easy to see this statement but doing this is something so much different.  I have really struggled with this over the past couple years.  We had a rental property that we had bought for my brother years ago. When my brother moved in with us we decided to use it as a rental.  My husband worked very hard gutting an remodeling the home.  We used it as a rental for many years.  We decided to sell it due to my work kept me away from home and my husband did not like dealing with the renters needs.

We got an offer and sold the house in 2014 to a man who told us that he was buying it for his son. Well this is not what he did. He moved in a couple that bought it on contract.  They parked on the lawn.  let the lawn turn into weeds and put up a tent off the patio and filled it with household stuff.  I was devastated over all of this.

We live right beside this home.  The husband would give me dirty looks or I would asume that he was giving me dirty looks. I ranted and raved to my sister about how upset I was over what they had done to the property that we had taken so much care of.  My sister reminded me,  as well as my husband,  that the property was no longer ours!

They would have huge bon fires in the front yard. I would kringe. So angry at this man who would sell this home on contract to people like this!  I was being so judgemental.  It consumed me with bad thoughts toward our neigbors.  While I was being angry my husband was being a man of God.  The neigbor man is Native American.  My husband is proud of his Native heritage and creates beautuful LOVE FLUTES.  While Bryan was recoverying from Cancer last year the man gave Bryan some old wood.  Bryan took it and carved it into a beautiful Love Flute for this Neigbor.  He even made a stand for the flute.

I am so convicted of my auful attitude.  It comes down to differences.  My judgements are about how I think people should take care of their home.  It is none of my business.  While I was judging them for letting the yard go.  I was unaware that his wife had cancer too.  Mark 12:31 states that you are to love your neighbor as yourself.  So I have worked to get to know my neigbor better and to respect differences.

I also feel that this is to be applied with all our community and to be kind and be in the service to one another.  When we can help one another we create hope.  My husband is a great example of this. I know that God is working on me…

If we all would be convicted for our sin against one another we would do more to love one another.  So I hope that this message will help you to look at your neighbor with love.

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Life Worth

IMG_1298What is my life worth?    People who think that their answers are the only answers!  Really?  How is that one can become so sure of themselves and their solutions without looking at other options?

I look for solutions and I try to see more than my view.  Why?   Because I am not always right!  My husband Bryan is a quiet man who loves God and me!  I am fortunate to have such a good man to call my husband. He cares about me and does nice things because he does love me.  We look out for one another.

My goal in life is simple.  Be successful enough to keep money in his pocket.  I think of his needs and what would please him.  I don’t do this out of service,  I do this because he matters!  I love him!  When we love something more than ourselves God opens doors for good things to come into our lives.

I was working on a sheet today that listed our worth.  It was upsetting to me that at 53 years our life’s worth is not much!  a home, few vehicles and stuff that makes up a used life!  All the things we have matters today to who!  The holder of the stuff!  Stuff does not give me love!  Maybe we think it does but it does not!  I stopped buying new clothes seasonally years ago as a way to save.  I wear the same summer sandals season after season, the same shoes season after season.  I choose things that are well made and take good care of what I have.   We are to be good stewards of what God provides.  When I go to heaven the items here on earth mean nothing to me.  I will have no need to worry about them.  Our children will be left with items that were apart of me that God provided me to use here.  1 Thessalonians 5:18 reminds me the “Give THANKS in all circumstances; for this God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.  What I have is enough.

I give praise today to for the good life and the value that is more precious than gold and silver.  The worth I have to my savior

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REMEMBERING LOVED ONE

As I set down to a quiet home to write I remind myself it took me time to get here. I have wanted to write for a long time. I wanted to do a lot of things that I have not gotten too. We all have plans that for some reason is just not right or we run from what we want to do because of money.

My story starts here. Growing up in a poor home, we did not really know how poor we were. My Dad never had a credit card! Not one!  He paid the bills and would not allow my step mother this role. I think because he had given this role to my Mother. I remember my Step Mother never went to town without my Dad’s permission. Once a week they would normally go grocery shopping together.

When you are young some things you just don’t remember or later you realize you blocked things. My real Mom was only in my life for a season. I loved my Mom and what I do remember about Mom was her leaving us a lot. In my parents room I remember on Mom’s side of the bed there were always magazine and books. My Mother loved to read. She always read love stories. My father Had a love for Western History Books but had no use for Harlequin Books.

Reading was a place my Mom would go to escape her life! My mother never read to us. When I was about 8 years old my Dad and Mom divorced. I will never get over my Dad’s then girlfriend moving in and throwing all of my Mother’s clothes and her belongings in the garbage. My Mother had a black fur coat that I just loved. I think I only saw her wear it once. It made such an impression on me.

I protested and went out and got that coat. My older sister scolded me and told me to not worry about that coat. I think it is because Glen had probably called Mom to come get her stuff.

My twin sister Cindy remembers things I did not remember. I blocked a lot of this time because I loved my Mother so much. It was more like a death to me when my parents divorced because we would only see our Mother a few more times and then she moved away. Cindy remembers Mom being arrested for writing bad checks. She was in jail when My Dad went in front of the court to dissolve his marriage to my Mother.

Mom stayed in town for not too long working as a waitress at Randolph’s Steak House and then she was gone. In those days women did not pay child support.
Mom would call to visit with us and my Step Mom would hang up on her. We did not speak to Mom for a least four years.

We moved to Huntley, Wyoming Dad closed his shop and he went to work for his cousin Chuck Jones. I remember when we moved into this farm house thinking that we were rich! The house had a closed in wrap around porch that you walked into and then into a kitchen with the laundry in the hall that led to a huge Master bedroom with more closets I had ever seen. the house had a bathroom that had doors on both sides (Jack & Jill) Us girls had a huge room and the boys had bedroom. later Chuck moved in a trailer house that they set up right off the one side of the house so we all had enough places to sleep.

The living room was huge!  As a small child I thought that house was so big. Recently I visited the home I grew up. Now it is abandoned, I could not believe how small that house was. The dreaming I did in this place still today makes me smile. The house had trees all around it and I loved the beauty of that yard. I remember Dad mowing the yard. My step mother loved flowers more then she loved being in the house she liked to garden. She planted a ton of flowers around that house. She loved Iris’s and Four O Clocks. Now that I reflect my step mother had good qualities that did not want to see.

I was not happy to have a step mother. It was a terrible time I remember having to leave the small house on East D to move to Huntley. I remember thinking all my school friends would forget me!

Jeanie was more a mother then my Mom had been. But she favored her children which I do understand would be normal “Mom” behavior.  I learned this when God blessed us with our children.

Jeanie passed away in March 2014.  People need to be celebrated- Tell people you love them when you can.  We are here for such a short time.   I Wish I could take time back!

Thank YOU God for giving us time to realize what is important.  I will celebrate the memories of the people God has graced my life with.  10690010_755835341131603_4199227567435461829_n

 

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Some Moments

As I reflect this moment today…..I trust God!  I cannot correct things others do.  I can trust that I am used for the good in life in how I choose to treat others.  I started a new job just three weeks ago with a company I know I could help the people be amazing.

Today that company announced they are being asked to vacate their contract within 60 days. They fired a man who has worked and served here for a long time. A broken hearted man was asked to leave.  So I ask “God be with this man and his family today. Set his feet toward success”.  Amen

What brought this to a place of disaster for this contract. When agreements are made it is easy to say someone else can do it better and cheaper.  In reality it can be.  But if you just fire the company and keep the old staff do you change anything?  I found that this does not change things for the better!  In the business world we must look to find solutions.  We need to help others less trained or with less skill become skilled by coming along side our people and helping them meet goals toward there on personal best!

Some moments are defined out of confusion.  Chaos or not understanding that certain things must take place. It is up to each person to come together with defined expectations to overcome needs in any agreement.

Some moments are defining moments that do not effect one but many.  I think if we could all take time and be more like James 4:11  “Do not speak evil against one another.”  We cannot help others by tearing them down.

Some moments can be changed when we learn to love and value one another. if you are an “I” person, you are missing the “WE” opportunities to change yourself by being part of a team.

James 4:14 “Yet you do not know what tomorrow will bring.  What is your life? For you are a mist that appears for a little time and then vanishes.

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IN THE MIDDLE

In the middle means so many things to me.  At this time in my life I am in the middle.  When you start something there is a beginning middle and end!  No matter where you are in life there is a middle.

When you are trying to bring people together we are wanting to meet in the middle! As I was thinking about in the middle it brought back a lot of hope for me.  If you are in the middle of something, you are being progressive. It is not like you gave up! You are moving toward something.  I am in the middle of a lot in my day to day life.  Each middle is progress toward people, things and accomplishments! In life we can be so caught up about the end result that we can rush past things that are important.  Look at the results of being in the middle get us.

It starts with an idea! It then becomes an action plan toward the goal set off of that idea. From there you are working toward the middle and ultimately to completing the outcome. Being in the middle also can be destructive if you are one to give up.  New plan GET UP so the middle  does not become your quit!  Its okay when things do not go our way.  Sometimes we need to go back to the plan and revisit the why’s and what’s in it for me! If remember there is a reason for why and what’s in it for me! You can re-evaluate and come to a new place of understanding.  It is okay to restart!

I was looking at times in my life that being in the middle brought great success.  Completing my Life & Health State Insurance license. This was a tough exam.  Truly a victory when I completed. Going from working with youth to adult education. Learning how to public speak for huge groups and be comfortable. Planning for career moves within the same company and accomplishing this. So being in the middle can be just the beginning of great new things!

A lot of great times came out of being in the middle.  Allow yourself to enjoy life’s journey from the perspective of in the middle.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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New Perspective

Sometimes we need to get a new perspective!  Break out of our daily routines to see someone else’s perspective.  I was observing my great nephew today as I hugged his brother Destin.  Taven watched from afar.  Taven has Autism and his perspective of our world is very different.  Taven does not really speak.  He will come to you to given him a hug and I will get a few kisses in on his fluffy pretty blond hair.  My niece loves and works hard to keep Taven happy.  Her husband Tom loves both his children.

Sandra his mother has learned to understand the needs of her son.  She can see what he needs and how to react to Taven’s sounds that only a mother can.  You can see this family is truly one with one another.  Each family member caring about one another.

Taven came to spend the morning with my sister and her boyfriend.  Taven is comfortable now at my sisters home.   Cindy recently moved into this home and it cause Taven a lot of stress.  He was confused to why Grandma and Grandpa did not live in there other house?  To Taven this was confusing.  He seemed more adjusted to take direction from all of us.  I actually was quite impressed with his peaceful demeanor.  He did speak saying “Love you!” “Mom” “Dad” and “Brother”

His world may appear simple.  Yet it is not.  He deals with being trapped inside his own thoughts and how he processes confuses others unless you take time to learn from Taven.  Taven is part of 24.8 million people who are diagnosed with this neurological disease.  1 out of every thousand children are now born with a form of Autism.

Take time to learn about Autism-

 

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— Cristian Mihai

It seems to me that we spend most of our lives waiting. For some mystical alignment of the stars to create the life we’ve always imagined for ourselves. For someone to come into our lives and make us unimaginably happy. We imagine into existence a certain future we deem ourselves worthy of experiencing but we […]

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